Friday, March 12, 2010

My rant at the moment....

Happy note first: Katlynn had her 1st play date today (outside of family and actually at our house). Usually we go over to other people's houses. It was fun to see Katlynn so excited about having someone over. She has so much disappointment in her life these days that it is good to see her actually excited about something.

My rant begins: (you may stop reading if you want)
Speaking of disappointment I have her suitcase packed and ready to go to her dads.... I have no clue if he is actually going to come pick her up or not. This coming up week is Spring Break for most of the schools in the area (I might even say it is all schools that are on break this week in the area). In his usual request of dates paper he sends at the beginning of the year he requested to have her for Spring Break. His original plan was to fly her (he like usual has not been very forthcoming with information). The last time I talked to him we kind of got into yet another argument... (nothing new there, it is getting old). He was making up excuses of how he may not have her back in time (he might be snowed in, which is believable since he lives in Utah and at the time they were getting a lot of snow). It's the fact that he was planning his excuse already 2 months ahead of time that I have the problem. I told him flat out that if he can't guarantee that he will have Katlynn back in time for school that I will not send her.
So in 30 minutes we will find out if he is going to show up and get her. I have not made a big deal about Katlynn going this time because I don't want her to be terribly let down if he doesn't show up. Why do I even stress about this? Well he is not reliable about getting her home on time or sometimes bringing her home at all. He has convinced himself that I am horrible and that my daughter is super mis-treated... 2 times now I have gone to New Mexico and retrieved my daughter (with my wonderful bro in law). Twice I have shelled out a lot of money in last minute travel expenses, taking off from work and lawyer fees all because he can't play by the rules. Not to mention when he is planning on having her for whatever reason he doesn't feel it a need to pay child support the month before the month of and the month after...



Ok I had to save draft to guarantee that I had Katlynn all ready to go just in case he showed up (was running out of time). Needless to say he did not show up. Did not call..... Which kind of was a good thing because Katlynn ended up complaining that her ear was hurting about 6:45. So I took her to the Redi Clinc which has been pretty good when I can't get Katlynn into the doctors office. Not too badly priced either out of pocket. Turns out she has an ear infection from all the sinus drainage she has had the last week. So hopefully she will be all cured in a few days. It hasn't sunk into her yet that her dad stood her up. She was asking questions while we were at the doctor and when I told her that he didn't come the look on her face broke my heart :(
Need to come up with a bunch of fun stuff to do this week of Spring Break. I did not plan for it since I figured she was going to be at her dads.